Every May, when Mother’s Day rolls around, there’s no shortage in conversations about what moms really want. Whether it’s breakfast in bed, diamonds and pearls, a pedicure or just a moment’s peace… women seem to be pretty vocal about their preferences and expectations.
But this isn’t about them.
A month later, Fathers Day arrives and it’s the guys’ turn. This is when the rest of us tune in to our telepathy and try to truly understand what the heck dads really want. If we believed every newspaper circular, Kohls commercial or Internet pop up ad, the Father’s Day dream is to receive an ugly tie, polo shirt/khakis combo or something out of the complete-waste-of-money department in the Sharper Image catalog. That can’t be right.
This year, I think I stumbled upon man’s ultimate gift. And I hate to be the bearer of bad news but this one’s gonna sting, ladies.
He wants you to back the heck off.
How did I reach this life-changing epiphany? Facebook, of course. In a recent status update, I asked my dad-friends, “What do you REALLY want for Father’s Day?”
Almost immediately, an answer was posted… by a mom. Within minutes, the comments were flowing and gift ideas (cough: sex) were flying.
But what was most interesting was that out of all of the conversation participants, only one of the comments was actually from a DAD. (Poor Lee didn’t know what hit him.) The rest were moms and one child-free guy having a good time at poor Dad’s expense.
It was kind of a light bulb moment for me.
Could it be that guys are actually telling us what they want but we don’t shut up long enough to hear it? I mean, it makes sense – sort of. Between planning the social calendar and keeping track of endless activities and appointments, women generally assume the role of taking control of it all, often leaving the men lost in the shuffle. I can’t begin to count how many weekends I’ve planned and organized (color-coded spreadsheet, anyone?) where Jeff is just expected to go along for the ride with no time to ask questions or voice an opinion.
Funny, I’ve asked my husband several times what he wants for Father’s Day, yet have completely disregarded the answer. I guess because I’m a fan of the grand gestures, I assumed his request for a simple day couldn’t possibly be what he really wants. But that’s completely unfair to him.
So this year, my husband will receive from me, a very important body part — my ears. I will hear what he’s saying and spend the day however he wants. I’ll slow down, trade in the multi-tasking for a Sunday drive, and won’t even think about mentioning the pool and garage that need to be cleaned (sorry, couldn’t help myself). I will ignore responsibility, free us all of social obligations and live carefree — in the moment.
For you, honey, I will spend this Father’s Day living like a man. xo
Guys, what do you really want this Father’s Day?